Is Getting Divorced one of your New Years Resolutions?

Divorce is at the top of many people’s New Years resolutions, as they vow to make next year the year that they work up the strength to leave a bad marriage.  If divorce is what you are aiming for, here are some tips to help you along:

  • Start Now. Remember that divorce is a process and can take time- the length of which will depend on the complexity of your situation and both spouses' willingness to cooperate. So start early to maximize the chances that by this time next year, the ink will be dry on your final divorce decree.
  • Get Organized.  All things financial will need to be dealt with. Start gathering items like bank statements, retirement account statements, tax returns, credit card statements, etc.
  • Set a Deadline.  You’ll probably want to sit down with your spouse to let them know you have decided to file for divorce.  This is a difficult task that many people put off and put off. There is no ideal time.  Decide when you are going to do it. 
  • Start looking for a good divorce lawyer.  Not just any old attorney will do.  Start meeting them (grab a free copy of my divorce book for tips on how to find the right divorce lawyer for you).
  • Make a list.  Make a list of what is most important to you. What do you want to get out of this divorce, other than your independence? What do you need for the future? Try to envision the new life that you want for yourself and write it down.
  • Prepare yourself Mentally.  Nothing worth having ever comes easy.  Remember that you may face some difficult times along the path to your new found freedom and remind yourself that you have the strength to do this if it is what you really want.  Never has anyone come forth to tell me that their divorce wasn’t worth whatever they had to go through to get it. 

 

I welcome the opportunity to sit down with you to discuss your options for divorce in your situation.  Give us a call at 630 250 8813 if you live in the Chicago area. We can help!

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